Friday, December 27, 2013
Protection From the Covetous Psychopath.
They wear a mask of sickly sweet friendliness, but underneath hides a ravenous wolf in search of how to cause pain, trouble, and hardship for others.
I've done some research on psychopaths before, but it wasn't until a recent situation which occurred in my life that I realized I had been dealing with one. It was the result of their actions which were cruel, immoral, thoughtless, and disrespectful, all the while hiding what they did by lying about it. Until I found the evidence, I did not suspect anything so vile could have been their intentions.
And therefore I am doing more in-depth research on these ugly beings. This may help others to spot a psychopath before they get ensconced into one's life and begin their games...as well as help myself up the road to spot one a lot easier and then block them from my life.
Covetous Sociopathy (PDF)
"The consequences of organization run or led in a covetous manner are immeasurable
because often it is long after damage has been inflicted before victims realize that a trespass has
taken place. Sociopathic institutions and individuals are adept at appearing benign. This allows
them the advantages of proximity, appeal, and trust. Often it is only in hindsight that actions
seemingly designed for the benefit of stakeholders are determined to have ultimately been for the
enhancement of personal aggrandizement or wealth. Delayed detection affords greater the
damage. Sociopaths do not generally feel true remorse instead they feel deserving of that which
they seek and more (Murphy & Vess, 2003)."
How to Recognize a Sociopath
"The lack of empathy and desire to exploit others are hallmarks of the sociopath. I have often observed that some couples in the midst of divorce exhibit a distinct lack of conscience about hurting their estranged spouse. This does not represent sociopathy. It does represent an irrational anger and hatred for one’s spouse. We are all capable of cruelty, lying and extreme selfishness, given the right circumstances. However, the sociopath makes a lifestyle of these traits.
So, how do sociopaths get around and become so successful? Martha Stout, PhD., who wrote an interesting book called The Sociopath Next Door, says that it is partly society’s fault. We ignore the fact that a man or woman is doing insensitive, immoral things and make a bunch of excuses for their actions. She points out the fact that sociopaths are experts at appealing to our sympathies and convincing us that they really mean well. The sociopath blames others for his/her situation – “I got fired for stealing from the cash register when everyone else does it too.” This is not to say that every person to externalize blame is a sociopath. Sociopaths simply use externalization of blame as a way of maintaining their charade of innocence and victimhood.
The advice of experts on how to deal with sociopathic personalities is pretty unanimous: stay away from them and protect your assets as best you can! If you have the misfortune to have a sociopathic boss, you will probably want to make arrangements to work under a different person. Domestically-abused women often realize that their partner was a man with no conscience, who took pleasure in beating them and cutting them down. If you are dating or engaged to someone you suspect is a sociopath, there is no formal cure for this disorder. If you think you will change this type of person, you are probably kidding yourself. Parents, if you have a sociopathic adult child, you need to protect your monetary assets and develop healthy, strong boundaries. "